In 2019 I wish you loud uncontrollable laughter and smiles that make your eyes crease. I wish you messy hugs with drunk friends and the warmth of a strangers kindness. I wish you red hot passion for the things that make you happy and ‘I love you’s from the people who matter.
hilarious to think that any user of this website could get staff to budge on any of their shitty ideas. its literally only happened once and its because everyone was cyberbullying a best-selling novelist who just so happened to love the taste of cock
we really were on the honour system of promising not to edit posts for years and John Green had to open his sultry little mouth and for once not to immediately place a cock in it
nobody claimed he was a pedophile. teenage girls on this website spoke up about being uncomfortable with him using tumblr to communicate with his young female fans & insert himself into teen spaces. his response was to blow it up into him being the victim of false accusations of being a child molester. instead of taking responsibility for his actions as an adult & acknowledging that he shouldn’t be making teen girls uncomfortable with his presence in their online communities, he deliberately manipulated kids on this website into defending him against a nonexistent attack in order to bully & silence the girls who dared to criticize him. he’s not “pure” or “a dork,” he’s a grown adult man who threw a tantrum when his entitlement was questioned. i HATE that stupid fucking joke post about him, but he’s not a victim for fuck’s sake.
It wasn’t just kids. Actual published authors, famous ones, who were grown fucking adults with enormous fanbases on this website (like Maggie Stiefvater) also jumped to John Green’s defense and put a fifteen year old girl on blast because she made what was actually a thoughtful, but ultimately super mild critique of his online presence.
Like, that’s the part that gets me every time I think about it. Actual grown ups with actual clout online dogpiled on a fifteen year old girl based on heresay from one man who took that criticism incredibly poorly.
Lmao, it’s been three fucking years and people still don’t get it. I was there too. That’s not actually how this conversation went down at all. The original post is still there for people to look at if they want. This is what the OP on that post wrote:
i bet john green thinks people don’t like him because he’s a “dork” or a nerd or whatever
when in reality it’s because he’s a creep who panders to teenage girls so that he can amass some weird cult-like following. and it’s always girls who feel misunderstood, you know, and he goes out of his way to make them feel important and desirable. which is fucking? weird?
also he has a social media presence that is equivalent to that dad of a kid in your friend group who always volunteers to “supervise” the pool parties and scoots his lawn chair close to all the girls.
You want me to defend myself against the implication that I sexually abuse children?
The OP never implied that John Green sexually abused children. The OP wasn’t even objecting to the fact that he talks to his fans on this website. They were making an observation on his general behaviour when it came to interacting with his underage fans and why it struck them as discomfiting.
The person who started throwing around the idea that John Green was being accused of sexually abusing children was John Green himself, which was an incredible reach on his part. A grown up doesn’t have to be a pedophile or an abuser in order for their behaviour towards teenagers to be creepy and uncomfortable. Teenagers are allowed to talk about how some grown-ups make them feel uncomfortable without that being construed as an accusation of outright abuse.
The only reason ANY of this stuff even became about him being accused of pedophilia was because HE chose to read the post as such and responded accordingly. Rather than reflecting on his own behaviour, John Green chose to prioritize his own entitlement to behave as he pleases towards others without anyone calling him out on it. He made it all about himself and how “hurt” he was about all this “bullying,” responded in such a public fashion that it made the original poster a target of his fan base’s ire, got all of his fellow YA author friends to jump on the John Green Defense Bandwagon and further pile on this person for absolutely no reason, and then wound up proving their point about how his behaviour is so fucking creepy and over-the-top that he really shouldn’t be interacting with people online at all.
I wish more people got this because some ‘low-empathy’ people are the most compassionate and sympathetic in the universe, and I hate it when that’s taken to mean ‘unfeeling and probably hostile’ when nothing could be further from the truth
Or, as my dad put it,
Sympathy: I know how you feel Empathy: I feel how you feel Compassion: is there anything I can do to help?
Sympathy: that sucks bro empathy: I feel that compassion: want me to send you some puppy and kitten pictures to make you feel better?
Posts like this make me feel so much better. It always seems like society treat responses to others pain as though empathy is the most important kind. I am around 85% compassionate and this post helped me not feel like I am a monster because of that for once.
so hey who else was taught as a kid that “”””wanting attention”””” in any way was wrong and shameful and has grown up unable ask for help or support even in great distress/suffering
Parent: why do you never come to me for help
(two days later)
Me: I need help with something
Parent: CAN’T YOU SEE I’M BUSY WHY CAN’T YOU DO ANYTHING BY YOURSELF GOD YOU’RE SO-
Me: never mind
And don’t forget the You Can Tell Me Anything (Except Things I Don’t Want to Hear)™.
Bonus round of You Can Tell Me Anything (But If I Don’t Like It You’re In Big Trouble Even If You’re Asking For Help)
I’m Always Here For You! (Until You Upset Me In Any Way)™.
I’m lucky to have such a well behaved kid! (Until you make one tiny slip up and I yell at you for being dysfunctional)™
i’ll help you if you ask (unless its something that i consider easy in which case i’ll make you feel bad and think youre a dumbass for not knowing it even though its something i never taught you)
You’re doing great and you’re very good I’m glad you’re helping me out ( until you drop something or bring me the wrong thing, then you’re a clumsy useless child and can’t do anything well)
Also I’ll give you the option to decide to either come with me/help me with something or not and I’ll do it alone ( but if you’ll say no I’ll make you feel really bad and say that you don’t want to spend time with me)
For anyone confused about why they feel so off about their parent(s) even though their parent(s) never physically hurt them: all the above examples are textbook emotional abuse.
In a recent interview with The Sunday Times, the actor was asked if it’s hard to be a man in Hollywood now due to the #MeToo movement, which has led to a broader reckoning against sexual misconduct. Plenty of actors have been asked something similar, and many have responded with statements that ended up necessitating apologies—from Matt Damon to Henry Cavill.
But Elba? He had this to say in response: “It’s only difficult if you’re a man with something to hide.”
a gentle reminder that you did well this year. you met new people, learned new things and felt new feelings. you did so many things that made you scared. you picked yourself up off the floor after feeling completely defeated or heartbroken. there were some really tough nights but you survived them all. you made people happy just by existing. you accepted many goodbyes but the serendipitous meetings made up for them. it was your own hard work that paid off but you always downplay it or compare yourself to others. that’s not fair on yourself. you’ve come so far from the first day of this year. you have more wisdom and strength now. yes, other people seem more “successful” but does that even matter? please don’t think so lowly of yourself to only think about your failures. 2018 was your year of growth. I hope you take a moment to be kind to yourself, and believe that 2019 will be even better.
So Scientology has recently been purchasing ad spots on social media sites including Twitter and Facebook. Scientology has always worked hard to recruit young people it seems like they’re investing in social media as well now. I know most people think Scientology is a joke but it’s a seriously dangerous cult which uses fear, extortion, violence, vandalism and various other unethical actions against those who oppose them both inside and outside the church. Here is key information on the abuses committed by Scientology:
•Scientology uses a form of pseudo-therapy called auditing which focuses largely on embarrassing and traumatic memories. Scientology collects the information you share and uses that information to threaten you if you oppose the church. They also charge huge amounts of money for auditing sessions (which is why they really are doing all this).
•They are extremely anti-psychology and psychiatry and pressure you against taking any antidepressants, anti-anxiety medication or any other drugs for mental health.
•They believe homosexuality can be “cured” and are blatantly homophobic. •Enemies of the church are labeled “suppressive persons” and it is forbidden to communicate with such people. This isn’t just to limit the negative press they receive but also is a manipulative tool. If you are in the cult and decide to leave or criticize the church you stand the risk of being completely cut off from your friends and family. “Suppressive Persons” are often also harassed, stalked, or threatened.
•If you’re new to Scientology and your family or friends are worried about you being in a cult you’re instructed to cut them out of your life, increasing your reliance on the support system (though there’s nothing supportive about it) the church give to you.
•Scientology’s doctrine includes the concept of “Fair Game”. This basically says that those who are judged a threat to the Church can be punished and harassed by any and all means possible.
•Because of this, they have no moral qualms about having their members lie in court which they use to defend themselves from lawsuits or charges that they’ve broken the law and also to help win lawsuits against their enemies. •They essentially spied on and stole information from the IRS and tried to frame the mayor of Clearwater Florida for a hit and run.
•Scientology filed 50 different lawsuits in one year against the Cult Awareness Network, an anti-cult organization. Using false testimony they won one of the suits and because the organization couldn’t pay the fine Scientology took the organizations name and logo so if you were calling to get out of Scientology you’d be unknowingly telling Scientology of your intentions. (For full transparency my mom was a member of the Cult Awareness Network before it was taken over and was sued individually by the Church of Scientology)
•Scientology has an official branch known as the Sea Org, a mixture between a paramilitary group and slavery, comprised of their most dedicated members including many children/teens who’ve been raised in Scientology. This is where some of the most rampant and terrifying abuse in Scientology occurs.
•Sea Org members often work over 100 hours a week for Scientology for around 2$ per hour.
•Sea Org member’s living conditions are terrible; they live in overcrowded communal rooms with up to 12 other people, are not given healthcare unless there is a free clinic in the area, often are forced to miss meals or sleep in order to successfully completed their work.
•Several former Sea Org members have accused the church of physical abuse. •Sea Org members may not have children and women who have become pregnant have reportedly been forced/coerced by their higher-ups to have abortions.
•Leaving Sea Org without permission automatically makes you a suppressive person, so young adults who’ve been raised in Scientology who want to leave are cut off from everyone they’ve ever known with no money or job and getting permission to leave can require 3 years of hard labor, social isolation, and group pressure.
it’s one of the scariest “religions” you’ll ever meet if not THE scariest because it was PURPOSELY created to make money. unlike most cults that do have some seed of genuine belief however twisted and off base the founders are, scientology was never a belief system - it was a get rich quick scheme for a terrible hack author who saw that there was more money to be made in manipulating people into a cult and then not letting them leave. higher and higher levels of scientology, which you have to take to be truly “clear” aka free of evil spirits, will cost you thousands and even millions of dollars. they will literally hook you into a billion year contract and then pursue you for any money you “owe” them, thousands of “back fees” for their religious training, if you try to leave.
stay the fuck away from anything marked scientology or dianetics. narconon (NOT the same as narcotics anonymous, the 12 step program) is also their thing. never even step FOOT into one of their free dianetics “auditing sessions” because they will use it to manipulate you into joining. they are incredibly persistent and will use every trick in the book to get you on board.
scientology: not even once.
Off the top of my head, a non-exhaustive list of “Brand Names” used by Scientology:
Narconon
Dianetics
Associate of Better Living and Education (ABLE)
Criminon
Applied Scholastics
Delphi Schools
The Way to Happiness Foundation
Author Service Inc.
Bridge Publications Inc.
Golden Era Productions
New Era Publications
Citizens Commission on Human Rights
The National Commission on Law Enforcement and Social Justice
Do not join any of the organizations. Do not work with them. Do not use their materials. Do not give them your money. Do not sign any documents.
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I can add nothing to this post except to say that this is true. I’ve crossed paths with these people several times. It’s a fascinating and terrible psychological control.
Took notes on Scientology from a public speaker and regrettably this is very true, based on the research done afterwards. But I think the obvious tell is the fact that the speaker began by explaining for 20 minutes straight about how “Scientology is not evil. It’s not a cult. People are just wrong and stupid.” Anyway if you have to preface your speech with a multitude of reasons why people shouldn’t think your belief system is god awful, then you may have a problem.
I fucking heard a commerical for them on a fairly popular radio station and am absolute appalled
I’ve heard them, too, and they’ve set up their own TV channel as well.
Particular PSA for the Tumblr crowd as I know there’s a lot of creators on here: They’re also behind the “Writers of the Future” and “Illustrators of the Future” contests, which are run by “Author Services Inc” and “Galaxy Press” so beware of those if you’re looking to submit anything to contests
Gonna add a lil’ something. In my town, they have their “church” set up right near a college campus and right near the main strip of places to eat, get coffee, etc. It’s a very non-descript building and they have a sidewalk chalkboard that says “free personality test.” Then you look up and see “Church of Scientology” on the building high above the sign. If you never look up and you’re interested in stuff like Myers-Briggs and stuff, I can see someone getting sucked in very easily.
